How God Prepares Wives to Become Helpmates

There is a season of preparation, and preparation does not look the same for everyone. It can look different depending on your spouse’s needs, your family situation, and what God is calling you to steward in this season. But through the standing, through the warfare, through the trials, the fight, the heartbreak, the training, and the prayers in the night, God is preparing you.

We see this in Scripture. Ruth was prepared for twelve months before she met King Xerxes, which suggests that there is a season when God prepares a woman to be a suitable helpmeet, a wife, and, if it is her desire, a future mother.

Rising early to pray

By the time you reach the later stages of your standing season, you should be well-equipped in spiritual warfare. You should begin to recognise the attacks of the enemy even before they fully manifest, sometimes even in your sleep, because your discernment has been sharpened through prayer and His word.

One of the ways God prepares a wife is through rising early to pray. The fourth prayer watch is a time when you are called to pray over your household. This means waking up before everyone else, commanding your day, praying over your children, your home, your husband, yourself, and interceding for others.

Rising early to arrange your household

During this season, I have found that waking up before dawn, usually between 3 and 6 a.m., creates space not just for prayer, but for preparation. After prayer, I use that quiet time to cook, clean, wash dishes, iron clothes, exercise, and be still before the day begins. I realised that when I leave cooking and cleaning until everyone is awake, everything takes longer, I have less time to myself, less time with my children, and less time for the ministry God has given me.

Home-cooked meals vs Fast food

God has also taught me the importance of home-cooked meals. There is no shame for those who enjoy takeaway, but I noticed a difference in how I felt when I ate home-cooked food compared to takeaway, which often left me feeling unfulfilled. I never enjoyed cooking when I was younger and was even considered a bad cook, but over time, I have found joy in preparing meals for my children. It has been trial and error, learning new recipes, making healthier choices, and seeing the impact it has had on my well-being and my children’s health.

Multiple business Ideas

Another area of preparation has been building multiple streams of income. Like the Proverbs 31 woman, partnering with God has led to ideas flowing and opportunities opening. It doesn’t feel overwhelming because I work at my own pace. God is the best manager because he not only gives you the idea, but He also gives you the freedom to let your creativity flow.

Planning, preparation, & Time management

Time is a resource given by God. Our Time should not be spent doing fruitless activities,i.e watching gossip reality TV lol. Planning and preparation have also become part of my daily life, whether daily or weekly, learning to steward time well.

Financial management

Learning to manage a little well allows God to trust you with more. Understanding Kingdom financial principles such as saving, investing, giving, and managing household finances has been part of this preparation.

Self-care and self-love

Self-care has also shifted for me. Not worldly self-care, but honouring myself as God’s temple. Making sure I am presentable each day, bathing, wearing clean clothes, caring for my skin, keeping my hair and nails tidy. God is in the details. Even something as simple as choosing a scent or asking the Holy Spirit to guide me on hairstyles that suit my hair type has become part of my walk with Him.

Learning and continuous development

Spiritually, I now find joy in learning and developing my capacity, not just for my own growth, but so I can teach my children, have meaningful conversations with friends and family, and grow in wisdom for when my spouse returns. Continuous learning has become part of preparation.

Character development

God has also been teaching me how to speak, when not to speak, and how to show respect. This has been a significant area of healing for me, especially because I struggled with a Jezebel spirit in the past. Learning restraint, humility, and wisdom in speech has been part of God refining my heart.

Preparation is about allowing God to shape you into your best self, into your full potential.

Tell me in the comments how you have been preparing to be a wife, or if you are already a wife, how God is preparing you to be a better helpmeet.

With Love,

Victoria