The road to healing: understanding your worth and value

I look back at some of the relationships I stayed in, and I can see now why I kept going back even after years of heartbreak. Years of knowing it was hurting me, yet still returning. Part of it was a soul tie, yes, but if I’m honest, not knowing my worth or my identity played a huge role.

I didn’t respect my body because I didn’t understand its value.

Think about a diamond for a moment. If you didn’t know what it was, if it just looked like a dusty rock, you might ignore it, or even throw it away. You wouldn’t protect it, you wouldn’t take care of it, you wouldn’t treat it as precious. But the moment you realise it is a diamond, your mindset changes.

That is what happens when knowledge comes: value becomes clear.

Our bodies are temples, where the Holy Spirit dwells. So the question becomes, how do we value what God values?

After knowledge, next comes boundaries.

Do not devalue yourself. Avoid giving your body to anybody who is not your spouse. If you have done so before, remember there is no condemnation. Reflect, seek God's cleansing and restoration. Cut ties with past lovers spiritually and physically.

Love yourself intentionally

Choose healthier foods, prioritise your skincare and incorporate exercise into your routine. Cast down negative thoughts and remove yourself from ungodly conversations. It's not about perfection, but rather a shift in mindset. This is a journey, not a race. Growth is gradual. Read the Word daily to renew your mind.

Identity comes from a relationship with God. When you understand that you belong to God, that He created you, and that He loves you deeply, the desire to devalue yourself begins to fall away.

When you know who you are, you stop settling for what hurts you.

Pray that God helps you understand your value, your worth, and your identity in Him. And pray for your current/ future spouse, too.