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A desire that God placed in your heart can quickly turn into idolatry if it is not stewarded properly and if God is not truly at the centre. This was my case. I was so eager to get married that I viewed some of the men I met as potential husbands, causing me to ignore certain warning signs. When I did not see marriage coming from those situations, I forced the relationships. I compromised, and I’m sure the men could sense that desperation. It was foolish, because firstly, I did not seek revelation from God about whether these men were my husbands. Secondly, I did not truly know God , the One who created marriage. Third, I did not even understand what marriage was actually about. This lack of understanding led me to repeated rejection, emotional abuse, and unhealthy relationships. Over time, I was fully operating in a Jezebel spirit, trying to control narratives and men instead of trusting God. Desperation can indeed lead to spiritual compromise. At one point, I was so hurt by an ex that I went online and found a simple spell. I used a candle and recited words, hoping he would call me. Minutes later, I received a message. I was looking for an apology, but none came. However, we reconnected. That moment opened a demonic door, just like the verse "Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first. ”Matthew 12:43–45. Things went from bad to worse, leading to a relationship filled with shameful, lustful acts and both physical and spiritual consequences that caused further damage in my life. I share this to say that God does give us the desires of our hearts when those desires are aligned with and submitted to Him. As Scripture says, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”  However, when a desire is not submitted to God, the enemy can use it to lead a person into lust, control, manipulation, and other destructive patterns, especially when marriage becomes idolised. Learn what marriage truly is through the Holy Spirit and through God’s Word, and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you, whether through Scripture, prayer, or Spirit-led ministries. Learn how to love God wholeheartedly, love yourself, and love people; that way, you will know how to love your spouse. Worldly books can give a worldly perspective. Some may be helpful, but they should always be approached with discernment and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Worldly knowledge without God does not produce wisdom. I learned the hard way that when God is not first, even good desires can become dangerous. Tips and Prayer points Repent for Idolising marriage, relationships and anything you have put before God. Repent for witchcraft, manipulation, control, covetousness. D ecide to put God first. Decide to study His word day and night. Treat God like your Husband. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal anything you have idolised. When anything comes to mind, repent. Ask God to remove all unhealthy desires. Break all soul ties with previous partners if you have not already. Ask God whathis will is for your life concerning marriage. With Love, Victoria

In Daniel chapter 4, God gives King Nebuchadnezzar a disturbing dream. We can see immediately that he is operating as a prodigal because he is seeking interpretation everywhere except from the Holy Spirit. If he had the Holy Spirit, he would have been able to discern what the dream meant, but instead, he turned to magicians, astrologers, and wise men of the world. Yet even in his rebellion, God is still speaking to him. This dream was a warning. God warns prodigals before judgment, giving them space to turn and repent, but Nebuchadnezzar was too proud to humble himself. Like Nebuchadnezzar, a prodigal often does not have the right people around them. They are usually surrounded by others who are also in sin. Scripture tells us that bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33) , and can two walk together unless they are agreed (Amos 3:3) . The voices around them cannot offer godly counsel because they are blind themselves. Still, God always places a destiny helper in your spouse's midst. In Nebuchadnezzar’s life, that helper was Daniel. In your spouse’s life, it may be a friend, a family member, a stranger, or even someone online. God can use anyone. Daniel interprets the king's dream; he highlights that the king was great, strong, fruitful, and influential. This shows us that Nebuchadnezzar was once operating in God's favour before pride took over. In my case, my spouse had achieved a leadership position at a fairly young age, something that usually takes many years to reach. God had favoured him in that area. His identity slowly became wrapped up in his success. God had to touch the very thing that fed his pride. That job was taken away through circumstances that led to dismissal and accusation. God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6). In Daniel 4:30, the King says, "Is not this great Babylon, that I have built for the house of the Kingdom by the might of my power, and for the honour of my majesty". God waited until Nebuchadnezzar exalted himself fully before humbling him. Nebuchadnezzar was driven away from men and made to dwell with the beasts. This mirrors the story of the prodigal son. It does not mean literal animals, but reckless, wild living, a descent into animalistic behaviour where the heart becomes hardened and cold. God does this by giving them over to their pride and the lusts of the flesh, as Romans 1:24 tells us. Daniel 4:23 tells us that the king would be in this condition "till seven times pass over him" This means that judgment was at an appointed time, and it was for an appointed time. Judgment was never meant to be forever. God already knew the moment the king would come to his senses. In the same way, God knows when your spouse will reach the point where the lifestyle becomes exhausting. While in Judgement, God brings them to remembrance of what they once had. The relationship may not have been perfect, but it was far better than in the world, which is like a jungle full of people who do not truly care for them. There is no real love outside of home, only temporary pleasure. When the appointed time was fulfilled, his understanding returned. God had taken it, and God restored it. This shows us that God was in control the entire time. The king came to fear the Lord, acknowledging that God does whatever He pleases. That reverence is what prodigals need to truly repent and return with a changed heart. God showed me my spouse’s judgment almost a year before we separated, although at the time, I did not understand what I was seeing. We were still married and very much in the Job season of our marriage. Judgment is often revealed ahead of time as a warning, either to the prodigal themselves or to someone standing in the gap for them. This is what encourages me most. God knows exactly what to touch in a prodigal’s life to get their attention. This should encourage anyone standing for marriage restoration. Prodigals will be humbled and restored. With Love, Victoria

There is a season of preparation, and preparation does not look the same for everyone. It can look different depending on your spouse’s needs, your family situation, and what God is calling you to steward in this season. But through the standing, through the warfare, through the trials, the fight, the heartbreak, the training, and the prayers in the night, God is preparing you. We see this in Scripture. Ruth was prepared for twelve months before she met King Xerxes, which suggests that there is a season when God prepares a woman to be a suitable helpmeet, a wife, and, if it is her desire, a future mother. Rising early to pray By the time you reach the later stages of your standing season, you should be well-equipped in spiritual warfare. You should begin to recognise the attacks of the enemy even before they fully manifest, sometimes even in your sleep, because your discernment has been sharpened through prayer and His word. One of the ways God prepares a wife is through rising early to pray. The fourth prayer watch is a time when you are called to pray over your household. This means waking up before everyone else, commanding your day, praying over your children, your home, your husband, yourself, and interceding for others. Rising early to arrange your household During this season, I have found that waking up before dawn, usually between 3 and 6 a.m., creates space not just for prayer, but for preparation. After prayer, I use that quiet time to cook, clean, wash dishes, iron clothes, exercise, and be still before the day begins. I realised that when I leave cooking and cleaning until everyone is awake, everything takes longer, I have less time to myself, less time with my children, and less time for the ministry God has given me. Home-cooked meals vs Fast food God has also taught me the importance of home-cooked meals. There is no shame for those who enjoy takeaway, but I noticed a difference in how I felt when I ate home-cooked food compared to takeaway, which often left me feeling unfulfilled. I never enjoyed cooking when I was younger and was even considered a bad cook, but over time, I have found joy in preparing meals for my children. It has been trial and error, learning new recipes, making healthier choices, and seeing the impact it has had on my well-being and my children’s health. Multiple business Ideas Another area of preparation has been building multiple streams of income. Like the Proverbs 31 woman, partnering with God has led to ideas flowing and opportunities opening. It doesn’t feel overwhelming because I work at my own pace. God is the best manager because he not only gives you the idea, but He also gives you the freedom to let your creativity flow. Planning, preparation, & Time management Time is a resource given by God. Our Time should not be spent doing fruitless activities,i.e watching gossip reality TV lol. Planning and preparation have also become part of my daily life, whether daily or weekly, learning to steward time well. Financial management Learning to manage a little well allows God to trust you with more. Understanding Kingdom financial principles such as saving, investing, giving, and managing household finances has been part of this preparation. Self-care and self-love Self-care has also shifted for me. Not worldly self-care, but honouring myself as God’s temple. Making sure I am presentable each day, bathing, wearing clean clothes, caring for my skin, keeping my hair and nails tidy. God is in the details. Even something as simple as choosing a scent or asking the Holy Spirit to guide me on hairstyles that suit my hair type has become part of my walk with Him. Learning and continuous development Spiritually, I now find joy in learning and developing my capacity, not just for my own growth, but so I can teach my children, have meaningful conversations with friends and family, and grow in wisdom for when my spouse returns. Continuous learning has become part of preparation. Character development God has also been teaching me how to speak, when not to speak, and how to show respect. This has been a significant area of healing for me, especially because I struggled with a Jezebel spirit in the past. Learning restraint, humility, and wisdom in speech has been part of God refining my heart. Preparation is about allowing God to shape you into your best self, into your full potential. Tell me in the comments how you have been preparing to be a wife, or if you are already a wife, how God is preparing you to be a better helpmeet. With Love, Victoria

These were the words I heard audibly, spoken in a stern voice, one morning as I was waking up. I don’t know whether I was fully awake or caught somewhere between, like Paul described when he said he did not know whether he was in the body or out of it (2 Corinthians 12:2). What I do know is that I immediately understood who the words were about, and panic set in. My first thought was that my spouse had died. I began to wail uncontrollably. I contacted him immediately, asking if he was okay, watching closely, keeping tabs on him throughout the day. Later, understanding and revelation came. This was not a physical death I was being shown, but a spiritual one. Why would God say that my spouse’s spirit was dead? Scripture tells us that we can be “dead in trespasses and sins” (Ephesians 2:1), separated from God through disobedience. Romans 8:6 says that the mind governed by the flesh is death, while Colossians 2:13 reminds us that being dead in sin is a real spiritual state. I believe God was revealing that my spouse had become separated from Him, given over to sin, and spiritually dead. In the months that followed, I began to have revelatory dreams showing the lustful acts he was engaging in. It became clear that he had been handed over to his desires. What I had heard audibly aligned with what I was witnessing spiritually. His spirit was dormant, and the flesh was fully alive. A spiritually dead state is dangerous and ultimately leads to not just a physical death but Hell. When the spirit is silenced, the flesh takes control, and Scripture is clear about when a person's flesh controls them, or they are living in their flesh- sexual immorality, impurity, selfish ambition, pride, drunkenness, and reckless living (Galatians 5:19–21). I saw many of these manifest at a high rate, both spiritually and physically, in my spouse’s behaviour. Thankfully, that revelation prepared me for what was coming and for what I would be required to witness. Prayer and partnership with God will resurrect what is dead. The same God who raises the dead brings life back to the spirit. “Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you” (Ephesians 5:14). As God begins to resurrect the spirit, the flesh slowly loses its grip. Through prayers, fasting, repentance, knowledge, wisdom and the work of the Holy Spirit, the person is awakened and begins to return to their right mind, one day at a time. What is dead to us is often the very place God begins His resurrection work. Stay encouraged. Love, Victoria

I am a dreamer, and I have always had dreams that require discernment and prayer to understand. Many of the dreams I had during my marriage restoration seasons were about my Husband. Early in our marriage, sleep became something I feared because God would often show me, through dreams, my husband entertaining women outside of our marriage. Time and time again, what I saw in the spirit would later manifest in the natural. When my Husband and I separated, the dreams increased. It felt as though God had activated a gift, one that compelled me to seek understanding. I searched the Scriptures, studied biblical symbolism, bought books, and at times even used online tools to help unpack particularly complex dreams. However, I came to understand that my dreams were rarely literal; they required the Holy Spirit to decode them. Many were layered with symbolism, parables, and spiritual mysteries. Honestly, at some point, I told God I did not want to see any more dreams because they were honestly taking over my emotions until I learnt why he was showing them to me. What became clear over time was that many of these dreams were about the future, both God’s plans and the enemy’s schemes against our marriage. God was not showing me these things to torment me, but to teach me. I learned that revelation comes with responsibility. When God exposed the enemy’s plans, it was because I had authority to pray, to intercede, and to cancel assignments meant to destroy destiny. So what is the point of these dreams? 1. God reveals the plans of the enemy because His children have the authority to stop them. Jesus said that while men slept, the enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat (Matthew 13:25). Dreams often expose what the enemy plants in secret so it can be confronted in prayer before it fully takes root. 2. God reveals His plans and purposes so we can come into agreement with Him. Scripture reminds us that God does nothing without revealing it to His servants (Amos 3:7), and that His plans are for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Through dreams, God gives vision and encouragement to keep praying and warring for what He has promised because He knows how difficult this can be. 3. God reveals truth. This is often the hardest part. Sometimes what He shows you about a prodigal is painful. Yet Scripture tells us that nothing is hidden that will not be revealed (Luke 8:17). Truth, though uncomfortable, is an invitation to healing. One thing I will add is confirm your dreams with the Holy Spirit and ask for confirmation. I'd like to hear your thoughts on dreams below. With Love, Victoria

A prodigal is someone who has gone astray from God and His ways, his truth. Scripture tells us, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” This tells us that before we came into this world, before our Heavenly Father formed us in the womb, He already knew us spiritually. I was once a prodigal, and maybe you are now. When people hear the word prodigal, they usually think of the story in the Bible, and yes, that is exactly what I mean. No, I didn’t exactly wish to eat the pig's food, but I did come to the end of myself, and that was the moment God stepped in. I had nowhere else to run. I tried everything I could find in the world, worldly knowledge, labels, and I even prayed to God here and there, but the day I truly broke down with every inch of my heart was the day I was betrayed and abandoned by my spouse. That was where God met me, and that was where my journey back home began. As God began to open my eyes, I started to realise that I had been a prodigal all along. All that time, I thought I was a Christian, but my heart was far from God. I didn’t really know Him. I didn’t even realise I was deep in sin, in the same way the prodigal was eating with the pigs, because I had normalised things God never intended me to live in. God then began to teach me about the reality of both the kingdom of darkness and the Kingdom of Heaven. My eyes and ears were opened, and I began to truly know Him. I returned to my Father wholeheartedly, and in that return, I came to understand my identity in Christ. I now know I am a son, and my relationship with the Holy Spirit, God the father and Christ the Lord continues to grow from strength to strength. I have learned that this walk is about the heart towards God, about loving Him with all your heart, soul, and mind. This is what God desires for every lost soul: that they would return home to Him first, because it is only from that place that He can restore the plans and promises He has for their life.

God created marriages, and His ways of establishing and cultivating them are the best. Marriages frequently go through seasons that mirror books in the Bible. Every season has its own purpose and includes spiritual battles. The Genesis season Purpose: Similar to Genesis, this marks the start when God discloses the individual He has chosen for you. While you might not hear a literal voice from above, God communicates in various ways. He speaks through peace, His Holy Spirit, His word, dreams, visions, people, discernment, or confirmations. Warfare: Attacks against clarity and God’s voice, doubt. The Job season Purpose: The enemy excels at stealing, killing, and destroying. Initially, you might be unaware of the ongoing warfare, puzzled by why everything seems to be unravelling. Arguments begin, conflicts arise, and you might find yourself questioning your decisions, perhaps even questioning God. This is a time of profound pain and intense questioning. Warfare: Lack of clarity, you have been thrown into a battle you may know nothing about. The Hosea Season Purpose:  This season marks the end of the marriage or relationship. Like Hosea, you experience the breaking of the covenant. Separation occurs physically or otherwise. Your husband/wife may separate from you physically, emotionally, or mentally. You discover truth, betrayal, and you must decide whether to stand in the gap for restoration of the relationship or separate for good. God begins to communicate or gives you instructions about your Love story. Warfare: Attacks against your heart (not literal), doubt, confusion, and wounds open up. The Daniel Season Purpose:  The humbling is the season where you go through a Nebuchadnezzar experience, a humbling under God’s hand. This is often marked by consequences of your past actions; God will chastise and discipline you, which leads to repentance and awakening. The aim is for your heart to soften and return to God. Daniel also represents purpose, elevation, doors and gates opening, and obedience leading to blessings. This season is marked by the start of the transformation of the heart as you get closer to God and to understand the nature and character of God, His laws, principles and commandments. As you grow in God and in wisdom, you discover your purpose, your calling, your assignment on earth. Warfare: Alignment, disobedience, attacks on assignment, procrastination, doubt The Nehemiah Season Purpose:  This season is all about rebuilding yourself, the relationship and your purpose. This is the season of construction, where God begins to rebuild: trust, identity, faulty foundations. The enemy fights hard here, just like Sanballat and Tobiah. There is fear, distractions, and spiritual warfare trying to stop the rebuild. If you are married, you will begin to see the reasons why your marriage fell apart, the generational curses, word curses, and the relationship built on a faulty foundation, not in God. You should also be building your relationship with God as you get to know him. God teaches you how to fight spiritually. Warfare: Sabotage and discouragement Th e Jeremiah season Purpose:  This season is a wilderness back-and-forth season. Like Jeremiah, there is wrestling, tears, and emotional conflict. More healing, more exposure of wounds, idols, cleansing, purging. God is fighting for you. The enemy knows you are close; he does not want you restored. Attacks on the mind, leading to rebellion and disobedience, giving up seems great. Warfare: disobedience, discouragement, rebellion, resisting backwardness. The Ezekiel season Purpose:  The final season is about cleansing, judgment, resurrection, and restoration. Ezekiel represents the cleaning-up stage. God begins to clean you up for reconciliation with your person. It is the stage where God corrects your person. Resurrection of the dead things in the relationship. A new heart, a new spirit, covenant restored, final reconciliation. This is the season of new life, where God puts everything in order and restores the marriage to His original design. Warfare: Staying in alignment with God, resisting old patterns, walking in the new covenant, protecting what God has restored.

Repentance is a way of life. To repent means turning away from sin and turning towards God.  It is not about condemnation or shame but about being real with Him and allowing His Spirit to reshape us. The Holy Spirit often brings memories to my mind, to reflect on throughout the course of the day. It could be a careless word, my tone, or to please people more than I please God. When that nudge comes, I try not to ignore it; I repent. The Holy Spirit gently brings things to the surface whilst praying in tongues. His voice does not condemn; it feels more like a soft nudge or a reminder. Condemnation, shame and guilt are not His language; that is the enemy trying to get us to run away from approaching God's throne boldly as the bible tells us to. "Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." Hebrews 4:16 There is also a difference between surface-level guilt and truly repenting. Genuine repentance is when you hate the sin itself. It hurts you to fall into it. It is when your longing for God grows stronger than the pull of the temptation. I know my weak spots. That complaint? Not trusting God in certain areas? People-pleasing? Slow obedience or disobedience, oh and much more. When the Spirit convicts me, I know I have to repent. I choose to renounce them, turn away, and keep moving forward. “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death”  (2 Corinthians 7:10). God’s correction always comes with love,not guilt or Shame. “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). The Holy Spirit can also convict one in the midst of the act. This gives you a choice to stop what you're doing right there and then. The Bible says, “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord”  (Acts 3:19). I have come to see the blessings in repentance. It keeps me close to God and brings freedom from sins, iniquities, and even generational curses. It teaches me holiness. It slowly shapes me into the image of Christ, day by day. It makes my walk with the Father lighter and more joyful. It leaves me with that clean feeling of being renewed, and it grows obedience in me so that I respond quickly when He speaks. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness”  (1 John 1:9). The beauty is that repentance is not about perfection. Every time I repent, I step closer to the Father. It feels like washing off the dust of the day and stepping into His presence renewed. Nehemiah prayed, confessed, and rebuilt what was broken. That is what repentance does in my life. It allows me to rebuild with God’s grace until His image shines through me. Recap The Holy Spirit convicts through thoughts, memories, and during prayers. Conviction is different from feeling shame and guilt Godly repentance brings about a change in the heart and in actions Repentacnce bring su scloser to God and transforms us into Christ Repentance is s a way of life, and is part of our wlak with the Lord

I look back at some of the relationships I stayed in, and I can see now why I kept going back even after years of heartbreak. Years of knowing it was hurting me, yet still returning. Part of it was a soul tie, yes, but if I’m honest, not knowing my worth or my identity played a huge role. I didn’t respect my body because I didn’t understand its value. Think about a diamond for a moment. If you didn’t know what it was, if it just looked like a dusty rock, you might ignore it, or even throw it away. You wouldn’t protect it, you wouldn’t take care of it, you wouldn’t treat it as precious. But the moment you realise it is a diamond, your mindset changes. That is what happens when knowledge comes: value becomes clear. Our bodies are temples, where the Holy Spirit dwells. So the question becomes, how do we value what God values? After knowledge, next comes boundaries. Do not devalue yourself. Avoid giving your body to anybody who is not your spouse. If you have done so before, remember there is no condemnation. Reflect, seek God's cleansing and restoration. Cut ties with past lovers spiritually and physically. Love yourself intentionally Choose healthier foods, prioritise your skincare and incorporate exercise into your routine. Cast down negative thoughts and remove yourself from ungodly conversations. It's not about perfection, but rather a shift in mindset. This is a journey, not a race. Growth is gradual. Read the Word daily to renew your mind. Identity comes from a relationship with God. When you understand that you belong to God, that He created you, and that He loves you deeply, the desire to devalue yourself begins to fall away. When you know who you are, you stop settling for what hurts you. Pray that God helps you understand your value, your worth, and your identity in Him. And pray for your current/ future spouse, too.

Where it all began I am Victoria, but most people call me Vicky. I have been on an incredible journey of finding God, discovering truth, and stepping into my purpose. I always knew I was called to more. After graduating, I felt the pull of destiny but could not find fulfilment in anything. Even going to university was a struggle, and I have to admit I did not enjoy it. I studied HR because I knew I was called to people. I loved organising events, hosting, training, and teaching. When I was a child, I would play “school” with my siblings, marking their work and teaching them. Although I did not pursue teaching as a career, I now see how close my calling is to what God planted in me from the beginning. My desire for marriage From as far back as I can remember, I always had a deep desire to be married. I grew up in a two-parent household, and I wanted the same. As I got older, however, I saw both the beauty and the brokenness of marriage. That planted doubt in my heart, but the desire for marriage never left. My first boyfriend felt like “the one,” but that relationship ended in heartbreak at 17. After that, I hardened my heart. I played with men’s emotions as if it were a game, not realising how much damage I was causing myself too. Being intimate was seen as taboo in my household, so I did not understand the true weight of what I was giving away. The more relationships I entered, the deeper my rejection grew. I became controlling, manipulative, angry, seductive, and full of rage. My temper was sharp, and my words were cutting. Without knowing it, I had come into agreement with a destructive spirit. Years later..... I met the 'One' Years later, God presented me to my spouse. He was everything I thought I wanted: tall, dark, and handsome. We connected quickly, but it soon became clear that this would not be an easy love story. It was a difficult love filled with pain and betrayal. I wanted to leave many times, because I believed love should not hurt this much. Months into the relationship, I discovered I was pregnant. Fear of raising a child alone made me push for marriage. I thought a wedding ring, a marriage certificate, and a baby would change us. But I was wrong. I had no idea what it meant to be a wife, and my husband had no clue either. Our marriage spiralled into criticism, lies, betrayal, and toxic patterns. The pain grew so heavy that even the authorities had to step in during one of my outbursts. We sought therapy, but it was not enough. I knew this was not just emotional, it was spiritual. I began to research everything I could on anger, marriage, wounds, and betrayal, until I stumbled across teaching on narcissism. At first, I thought it described my husband perfectly — until I realised it also described me. That was when God began to open my eyes. The tearing apart God often revealed the truth to me in dreams. I would dream of infidelity, confront my husband, and later find proof of what God had already shown me. The final breaking point came when my husband accidentally called me while on what sounded like a date. I recorded it, knowing he would deny it. That moment shattered me, but it was also when God finally had my attention. With two children under two, I was broken, crying, and empty. God began to reveal His love, His truth, and His ways to me. He showed me who I was and began a deep work of healing and deliverance. We eventually agreed to separate and decided to co-parent because of the level of abuse we had both endured. My Journey through Warfare As I dug deeper, I came across deliverance ministers who explained that what the world calls “narcissism” often have spiritual connections, spirits tied to wounds, rejection, and generational traumas, curses, and sins. For the first time, I heard someone say God could deliver a narcissist. This stirred something in me. I began to go to war in prayer. I battled Jezebel, fear, witchcraft, curses, and torment. I faced spiritual warfare so intense that one night, I physically felt a spirit try to drag me from my bed. But in the name of Jesus, I overcame. Through these battles, I learned who God the Father, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit are. I came to know their voices and their roles in my life. The Father loves me and tells me off like a father would; he gives the orders. The Son has redeemed me. I am thankful to Jesus for the blood on the cross. The Holy Spirit teaches, comforts me, and conforms me into Christ’s image daily. God’s Promises to Me In this journey, God has made me many promises. He has resurrected me into a new life in Christ. The old me is gone. I no longer desire to control others. I repent because I love God and love people. He is restoring me daily into who He created me to be.The enemy stole much from me; my marriage, my joy, my health, my beauty, my peace. Yet God is restoring everything. He has opened my eyes to see beauty again. He has changed the way I dress, the way I live, even the way I eat. He is in the details.I have been delivered from many spirits, including a spirit spouse, and I will share more about this in my blog. Why I created difficult love I am not perfect, but my heart is to help people walking through difficult relationships and broken marriages. I want to show others how to partner with God for resurrection, restoration, and reconciliation. My story is proof that Jesus truly came to set the captives free.I write honestly and openly because the truth sets us free. Knowledge is part of deliverance. With knowledge, you can be delivered. Without it, you remain bound. The enemy wants to keep God’s people ignorant, but Jesus wants us free, free from oppression, free in our relationship with God, and free to enjoy the beauty of a marriage aligned with His will. I am here to help. 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Do you 'know' your God? I recall reading in Genesis about Adam knowing his wife Eve, and she conceived. I always wondered why the word "knew" was used instead of "lay with" or other terms like those used in the story of David and Bathsheba. However, this is more than just physical intimacy. Knowing is about becoming one with your person. God desires for us to be one with Him first before we become one with our spouse. God's original plan for marriage on earth is to reflect the oneness we have with Him. "Depart from me; I never knew you" (Matthew 7:23). How can God not know you when He created you? The "knowing" here means you were never intimate with Him; you did not become one with Him, you did not understand His heart and therefore did not follow His will for your life. Even though they prophesied in His name and did works for their own sake, they did not know Him. Reflecting on the nature of our relationship with God, we are reminded of James 4:8, which says, "Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you." This mutual desire for closeness is essential. Just as we desire to know others and be known, God desires the same with us. In conclusion, to avoid hearing "I never knew you," we must seek intimacy with God, understanding His heart and aligning our lives with His will. Only then can we truly fulfill our purpose and enjoy the benefits of His presence in our lives. Practical Steps to create intimacy with the Father Be open and honest with Him Share your heart even though He knows everything Ask what His will is for your life instead of following your own Maintain a prayer life and set aside quiet time to meet with Him daily Read His word and ask His Holy Spirit to guide you Be led by His Holy Spirit Allow Jesus to be Lord over every area of your life

The Genesis season is all about the beginning of a love story. When I think of Genesis, I think of Adam and Eve. God looked at Adam and said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”  (Genesis 2:18). Out of Adam’s rib, He created Eve. Imagine a God so good that while he puts the man to sleep, he creates a beautiful woman, perfect for Adam's needs. They both knew one another, and they both walked with God. It is such a beautiful picture of love. God presented Eve to Adam, and Adam immediately recognised her. “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”  (Genesis 2:23). Your person should recognise you as His wife, as soon as they set their eyes on you. He may not say anything to you, but the spirit will tell Him. Sin damaged both relationships, between God and humanity, and between Adam and his wife. Their perfect union was broken by disobedience and rebellion. “Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realised they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves”  (Genesis 3:7). Fear, shame, and hiding took the place of intimacy. Thankfully, God already had a plan. He would send Jesus to reconcile humanity back to Himself and to bring healing to broken marriages and relationships. In Christ, we can experience a union that reflects God’s perfect design. It may not be a perfect relationship, because we are human, but it is perfect in Christ. I would choose the union God designed over the world’s version any day. Significance of the Genesis Season The Genesis season is about the beginning of your love story. It is about how God connects you with your person. It reveals where you both are spiritually when you meet. It brings your relationship history and family background into the light. It tests whether you are equally yoked or not. It forces you to ask the question: Is this really my spouse, or did I choose this person myself? It is also about that moment of recognition for the Man. It is about the foundation your love is built on. It is about your understanding of marriage when you first come together. Consider these questions How were you first connected to your love? Where were you both spiritually at the time of meeting? What was your previous relationship history, and how did it shape you? What is the story of your family background and the generations before you? Are you truly equally yoked in faith, values, and direction? Is this your God-ordained spouse, or someone you chose for yourself? How do you discern the difference, and what confirmations have you received? Did you both recognise one another as husband and wife in your spirit, that deep inner knowing? Do you have a clear sense of your identity in Christ, and does your partner have a clear sense of theirs? What foundation is this love built on? At the point of meeting, what was your understanding of marriage and relationships? See you in the next post. With love always, Victoria x